How to room with your bestie without straining your friendship

Getting a long with roommates can be tricky business. To help ease this process students can try drafting roommate contracts to set important ground rules for each other.

For Isis Martinez, linguistics and spanish senior, the decision to live with her friend was an easy one.

“The reason why I decided to live with my best friend despite people saying we will hate each other [is] because I would rather live with someone I trust and feel comfortable and not awkward with,” Martinez said.

Sanjog Lamichhane, Counseling and Psychological Services ambassador, said in an email that people might also choose to live with their friends to spend time with people in the same age group or smoothen the transition to adulthood.

Martinez said they have been living together for two years and have yet to have an argument.

They have achieved this by incorporating certain structures. For instance, she and her roommate follow a rotating cleaning schedule.

With food, Martinez said they share basic items such as eggs and milk but seek permission before dipping into individual foods. She also said they plan meals ahead of time and often share them.

Rodarious Young, former resident assistant of Kalpana Chawla Hall, said in an email that he believes living with friends can be fun, but boundaries need to be enforced.

Young said there are three stages people go through when they live with friends: the honeymoon phase, the routine phase and settling into their pre-roommate routine.

“After that, people notice little things that may bother them and that’s when things begin to change,” he said.

He believes a good way to navigate this is effective communication.

“Check in with each other! Either verbally or through text. Even if y'all have been living with each other for a while,” Young said. “Don't let something become the elephant in the room. If you're not happy about something, say something.”

On the other hand, Sarah Afowowe, West Hall resident assistant, does not encourage her residents to live with friends.

“It makes the resident less likely to branch out and meet new people and it is not always beneficial to the relationship,” she said in an email.

Lamichhane advises people thinking about living with friends to be empathetic, supportive and compassionate.

“Helping each other grow by giving constructive criticisms, listening to each other, and being a good human in general,” he said.


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